You have power. Yes, you do.
Even if you think you don’t, you do. Use it. Stand up for yourself.
Even if it makes the other person uncomfortable. Making them comfortable is not your responsibility.
Even if the other person is taller than you or louder than you or in a position of power, it doesn’t mean they have your best interest in mind. Fight for you. Fight for what YOU want.
Just because someone is talking loudly or sounds confident doesn’t mean they are right. Question them if you need to.
Too often, we give up our power to make someone else feel comfortable or because we think they know better. Don’t buy in to that. Chances are they don’t know better, they certainly don’t know what you want better than you, and you don’t need to make them comfortable.
I used to do this all the time. I gave up my power to others because I didn’t want to make anyone uncomfortable, because I thought they had the answer, knew the right way to do it, because I thought I was being nice. But I’ve realized that doesn’t serve anyone and it leaves me feeling sad and small because I didn’t get what I really wanted out of the situation.
But I am turning this around. It still feels uncomfortable sometimes and sometimes I’m not sure if I misread the situation and said something when I didn’t need to. But I’m still proud of myself every time I make sure my voice is heard.
Make sure your voice is heard too.